Inter-faith married couples, how did you make it work?

My partner and I are of two completely different religious backgrounds and affiliation, yet we love each other very much.



When we talk about the future, it is hard because we each really want certain things and are not willing to compromise. We really want this to work, though.



I am looking for anyone with experience with being in an inter-faith marriage or relationship.



Where did you have the wedding? How did you agree on it? If you have children, what were the kids taught about faith? How did you get past major conflicts and how did you celebrate your separate religious holidays?



Any help or experience on this topic would help greatly!Inter-faith married couples, how did you make it work?I have been in this situation and I can only offer this: You must agree that each person must choose their own view of spirituality. Even within a single religion there are many differing opinions - so no one believes just like another. You must accept that. Each to their own. Concerning children - consider that children need a basis for understanding the world in simple terms. So either one of you can provide that keeping in mind that when they reach late adolescence they will evaluate things for themselves just as you did. Allow the person who has the more comforting views to direct the kids with the other providing a buffer from extremism - not a conflict approach but to keep things relatively even for the kids sake. They need consistency and it does not matter who provides it.Inter-faith married couples, how did you make it work?to quote Gore Vidal:



"Simple. One Sunday we do not go to the church of her choosing. The next Sunday we do not go to the church of his choosing."Inter-faith married couples, how did you make it work?You can't make it work without being willing to compromise. One way or another, you will have to agree on who has the final say. A good friend of mine is a devout Russian Orthodox christian; her husband is an agnostic; their marriage works because 1) she leaves him alone when it comes to religious matters (she goes to church, but doesn't care if he goes), and 2) she is completely in charge of the religious education of the kids; her kids go to church with her, and she has the final authority when it comes to religious upbringing.



Unless you're willing to work out some sort of a compromise, I simply don't see how it could ever work.